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26th October 2021 

What is Relationship Counselling?

Most adults look for a committed relationship in order to grow and develop, and share the journey of life with a loved and trusted companion. Relationship counselling recognises that whilst reaching out for a committed relationship, many people find them very difficult to achieve, but examining the interactions and balance between the partners can lead to insights to resolve difficult issues and lead to positive, creative outcomes.

Sometimes it can be more comfortable to engage with issues on an individual basis, and I am happy to see couples or individuals.

If a decision is made to end the relationship, counselling can support both individuals to minimise hurt and enable effective continuing roles to be adopted, which is particularly important when children are involved.

When Can it Help?

During a long relationship, a series of important decisions and turning points are likely to be confronted. For example, is 'marriage' necessary (which might mean different things to each partner), deciding whether or when to have children, adjusting to pregnancy and children, health or work-related issues, boredom and attraction to other people, sexual issues, and problems of ageing. These issues and the possible conflicts they might create can be examined in a safe, confidential environment and the meanings behind each perspective can be explored, offering the possibility of growth and the ability to compromise.

If communication is difficult, issues can become a constant round of unresolved arguments: in counselling, we can explore the arguments and look for reasons and ways to resolve them.

What Benefits can be Expected?

Counselling helps you take time out from your situation and engage with underlying issues which may be creating patterns of interaction which are unhelpful. Talking about beliefs and ways of being developed from childhood and adolescence experiences may enable you to think about what you can do to change your situation for the better. Some expected benefits can be:

  • Improved communication

  • Awareness of others needs

  • Anger management skills

  • Ability to negotiate satisfactory decisions together

  • Improved sexual relationship

  • If the relationship ends, develop insight into each partner's input to the situation, offering the opportunity of not developing the same problems in future relationships